Ever think, “why is adulting so lonely?” It can be really tough being an adult. You’re responsible for everything, and no one is there to help you. You have to do everything yourself! It can be really lonely, and sometimes you just want someone to hold you.
Don’t act like you don’t.
There are a lot of things that once were easy but now are very difficult. For example, as a kid, it was probably a lot easier to make friends. You had people to talk with in your class, at lunch, in your afterschool program, and in your neighborhood.
But once you become an adult it changes.
It’s hard to make friends as an adult because you’re busy. You don’t have time to go out and meet people, and you’re too busy working or taking care of your family. It can be even harder to find someone who is compatible with you, especially for the long term.
Once you leave school you then have to find a job to make money.
Sometimes it’s hard to find a job that you like because there are so many options. Then there are times when there are not enough options. And that isn’t even considering the interviewing process which can be as dreadfully long as it is nerve-wracking.
And once you have a job you have to be careful not to take on too much work, or you’ll get burned out.
But of course, if you don’t have a job, it’s hard to get money.
Feeling overwhelmed and lonely yet?
I know this article isn’t as upbeat and hopeful as the other ones but it’s important to recognize the downsides as well as the upsides.
Consider this a downside monologue.
Let’s talk about the living situation next.
It can be really hard to find a place to live because there are so many people looking for housing.
Have you seen the rent prices lately? They are insane!
But what are you going to do? You have to have a place to stay. And if you decide to live with roommates (so you don’t feel so lonely), it can be difficult to find ones that you are compatible with.
There’s a lot about adulting that can make you feel very lonely. What’s said above is only a taste of it.
Nevertheless, adulting doesn’t always have to be lonely. There are ways to make the loneliness a little bit easier. You can make friends online or join social clubs. Maybe your neighborhood has local sports teams or activities you can join in on.
And if none of that works for you, maybe think about getting a pet. Pets can make you feel connected to the world and of course less lonely.
So you have options. Know that. And don’t be discouraged. We all feel lonely at some point. It’s just a part of growing up.
If you are still interested in reading more about the difficulties of adulthood or just want to make yourself stressed check out this article, “12 Harsh Truths About Becoming An Adult.”
Thanks for reading. I hope this article has helped you in some way and, of course…
Best of luck adulting!
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Donald Williams, Jr.
Donald is an avid believer in helping young people prepare for adulthood. He spends his time working on Adulting Starts Here and helping new adults plan for the future. In his free time, he enjoys spending time with his family and going to the beach.